TONIGHT’S FOR QUESTIONS …
BEFORE YOU START ANSWERING …
CONSIDER WHO ASKED —
One of the lessons of the seder is that each of our children is unique. So when they ask questions each must be answered in a different way.
Some children ask very specific questions. They will not be satisfied unless you provide detailed answers, which will likely elicit new questions. So be sure to do your homework, and don’t be afraid to say “let me get back to you.” While looking for answers you’ll learn something yourself.
Some children ask simpler questions. You might be able to get away with short answers, but it would be better if you took the opportunity to encourage them to wonder about things a bit more. Maybe next year it will be their turn to ask some more challenging questions.
Some children will doubt the need to observe traditions. It’s natural to question the whole “organized religion” thing – didn’t most of us do that? Discussing questions about a social issue related to Pesach might be a good way to engage this child.
Some children aren’t able to ask. You may have to start the conversation (if they’re old enough) by asking the first few questions yourself. Perhaps some seder-themed coloring pages or a toy like Ten Plagues finger puppets will pique their curiosity.
Hoping your seders are full of questions, chag sameach to you and your families.
Image by David Wander from A Different Night: The Family Participation Haggadah
Ed Nickow | The Torah In Haiku